Happy 4th of July  / Donna Gramlich (Mother of Another Angel )





Forever in my hearts and Prayers.
Donna

http://matthew-gramlich.memory-of.com
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Good friend, great guy.  / Justin Hus Var (Friend)
I don't even know where to begin with something like this.

I stumbled across this website, and some of the stuff written here is very touching stuff.

I thought I would add my bit to such a great tribute to a great man.

I was cruising down Millersport Highway the other day, past ITT Tech, and just thought of Mike Aaron, and the group of guys that stuck together (Mike Costello, Mike Aaron, Myself, and Norm Liszka).  I really miss all those guys. 

I've come on here to pay tribute to Mike, and hopefully re-unite with the rest of our little group of guys who really stuck together.

We were such a close knit group, it was like any guy would do anything for anyone in the group.

Mike Aaron was like an uncle to me almost.  He helped me out so much.  I wouldn't have made it through that school without him.

When I needed help, he went to bat for me with administration and teachers to convince them that I wasn't really a screw up after all.

Through the two years we really learned alot about eachother and were very close,  like another brother to me.

Mike is just an overall excellent guy, and I really miss him.  I think back at some of the funny jokes we would tell, and the good times that we had and i just smile, or sometimes laugh at some of the sarcastic stuff that he would say.

I miss you good buddy.
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Angel Mom  / Donna Gramlich (Mother of another angel )
I would like to send our deep condolences to you and your family. I just lost my son 12-18-05 in Farmington, NY.  He just turned 18. He was a passenger and a friend was driving him home. The driver was drinking before he showed up at my son’s friend’s house.  The driver sped off and within 1 min. the accident happened. The driver hit a guard rail, spun around and then hit a tree trapping my son in the car.  He was the only one killed and the driver walked. I deeply know what you and your family is going through. Matthew was my only child. My partner and as you know our life and future. We know our lives will never be the same for any of us in our families. He is truly an angel and with my son. There should be a rule that young people should not die. We live in this new night mare and our lives are now changed for ever. We now live day to day to get through. Our missing will be for ever. I will pray for you and your family to help you get through each day as every one in our life has. It's not easy and will be the hardest thing we will ever experience in our life. There is nothing like this experience everything else is nothing and small. No family should ever experience this kind of lost. My heart goes out to all her friends because I know what they are going through also. I keep in contact with Matthew’s closest friends just to help me get through. Everyone here in my life has been truly wonderful and a blessing.  We all stay connected to help each other. I want to send out my heart to all your family and friends. Matthew and  Michael will for ever be in our hearts and now that is where they will live for ever. 
http://matthew-gramlich.memory-of.com
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I Can't Unlove You  / Pam Aaron (Wife)

Postcards an' letters an' pictures made to last forever,
To be boxed up and tossed away.
Nick-nacks an' souvenirs:
In an afternoon they're outta here:
They'll disappear without a trace,
But what they mean to me will never be replaced.

I can't unthink about you;
I can't unfeel your touch.
I can't unhear all the words, unsay all the things,
That used to mean so much.
I wish I could unremember,
Everything my heart's been through.
I'm finding out it's impossible to do.
Oh, it's no use: I can't unlove you.

Interstates and old songs: like time, they go on and on.
I guess I could learn to do the same.
I could wake up without you:
These two arms not around you.
Tell myself: "It's meant to be this way."
No matter how I try, some things I can't change.

I can't unthink about you;
I can't unfeel your touch.
I can't unhear all the words, unsay all the things,
That used to mean so much.
I wish I could unremember,
Everything my heart's been through.
I'm finding out it's impossible to do, oh whoa,
Oh, it's no use: I can't unlove you.

I wish I could unremember,
Everything my heart's been through.
I'm finding out it's impossible to do, oh whoa,
Oh, it's no use: I can't unlove you

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I WILL ALWAYS FORGIVE YOU!  / JUDY KACZOR (FRIEND)
I CANNOT BELIEVE ITS BEEN A YEAR SINCE YOU'VE BEEN GONE MICHAEL.  I STILL FIND IT HARD TO BELIEVE YOU ARE GONE.  SIMPLY BECAUSE I FOUND OUT SO LONG AFTER THE FACT I REALLY NEVER HAD ANY CLOSURE.  BUT PAM IS GOOD.  AND SOME PEOPLE FIND IT DIFFICULT FOR HER TO FORGIVE YOU FOR CERTAIN THINGS BUT YOU ARE GONE AND THERE IS NO LONGER ANY REASON TO TRY AND WORK THROUGH THE PROBLEMS YOU WERE STRUGGLING THROUGH EMOTIONALLY.  I UNDERSTAND BECAUSE I KNOW YOU WERE TROUBLED AND I SOMETIMES FEEL  A HEAVY GUILT OVERCOMING ME THAT I NEVER SHARED THIS WITH YOUR ONE AND ONLY!!!!!! LOVE PAM.  I THINK SHE KNOWS KNOW HOW MUCH LOVE YOU HAD FOR HER.  I NEVER MET A MAN WHO FELT WHAT YOU FELT FOR PAM AND DAVID.  SOME OF THE SCREWED UP THINGS THAT YOU THOUGHT AT TIMES WERE JUST THE FRUSTRATIONS YOU HAD TO FIGHT ON A DAY TO DAY BASIS.  ANYONE WHO EVER THOUGHT THEY WERE YOUR FRIEND WERE WRONG THEY DIDNT KNOW THE REAL MIKEY THEY DIDNT KNOW THE MAN WHO HAD A REAL LOVE FOR HIS FAMILY!   SO WHOEVER YOU ARE?   YOU WERE NEVER A PART OF HIS LIFE.  WELL YOU DIDNT KNOW WHO I WAS DID YOU?  THERE YA GO!  REST IN PEACE MY LOVE!  I PRAY FOR YOU AND PAM EVERYDAY!  I MISS YOU MICHAEL!  JUDY Close

Blessings & care Michael  / Jane Einarson (I care )
Dear Michael, Thinking of you & your precious family this season with love & respect. Please watch over them. You will all be in my thoughts & prayers. God Bless XXXOOO
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Our Anniversary  / Laly Bug (Wife)
Today is our 5th Wedding Anniversary. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! The original plan was to renew our vows... never thought I'd wake up on this day to look at his side of the bed and say to the air, "Happy Anniversary". I always had the thought with each passing year, "we made it through another one.." because of how hard things were. I miss him that's for sure! He should be here with me today. I'll be celebrating our day with David and Lori. The twists life brings our way! Somehow I'll get through everything, for the most part I'm doing good. David is doing good also. Mike was my everything. I'll continue loving him forever and always. Happy Anniversary Honey! One day we'll be together again! Close

MY CHILD  / SELMA FLYNN BOBBO.MERORY-OF.COM (FRIEND)
"MY child On the day God took you I thought that I would die I wondered where the time went? I asked alot of whys?? With people all around me I felt alone inside From all their words of comfort, I couldn't seem to hide, I thought I might be dreaming That I'd wake and find you here, I thought "This can't be happening." As I wiped another tear. On the day that you were laid to rest My heart broke yet again, I wondered if the pain would end, But mostly, I wondered when?? It's hard to be without you, At times the days seem long, Sometimes I just sit crying, When there's really nothing wrong. I wish we'd had more time, Before your life was done. I hope your resting peacefully, My precious child, Close

7 Years & 6 Months  / Laly Bug (Wife)

Yesterday would have been our 7yr anniversary of meeting each other. It was a TOUGH day! We always tried to make that day special but not to over do it because our wedding anniversary is at the end of the month. Oddly enough, our 7yr anniversary was ALSO 6 months to the day Mike died.

I miss him so much it's pothetic! Some days aren't as bad but every day that goes by, there isn't one minute I'm not reaching out to hold him and kiss him. What I would give to just SEE him again. But like the song, "Goodbye My Friend", I know I'll never see him again...only in memories, on pictures and videos. SOMEONE NEEDS TO INVENT A TIME MACHINE!!! I would travel back to April 5 and everything would be so different!!! For one thing, he would still be here.

Rest in peace honey...LOVING YOU FOREVER AND ALWAYS...XXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

LALY BUG

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Missing You  / Laly Bug (Wife)
I'm sitting here missing you terribly. As fall begins I sit here and reflect on our last year. So many things have happened. This is definitely going down in history as the WORST year of my life. Tomorrow will be our 7yr anniversary of meeting each other, then Wednesday will be our 7yr anniversary of meeting in person, then on October 28 it would have been our 5th Wedding anniversary. I'm dreading these days. Somewhere I need to find the strength to get through them. Rest in peace my forever love. Close

GOODBYE MY FRIEND  / Laly Bug (Wife)

GOODBYE MY FRIEND

Oh we never know where life will take us
I know it's just a ride on the wheel
And we never know when death will shake us
And we wonder how it will feel

So goodbye my friend
I know I'll never see you again
But the time together through all the years
Will take away these tears
It's okay now
Goodbye my friend

I've seen a lot things that make me crazy
And I guess I held on to you
We could've run away and left well maybe
But it wasn't time and we both knew

So goodbye my friend
I know I'll never see you again
But the love you gave me through all the years
Will take away these tears
I'm okay now
Goodbye my friend

Life's so fragile and love's so pure
We can't hold on but we try
We watch how quickly it disappears
And we never know why

But I'm okay now
Goodbye my friend
You can go now
Goodbye my friend

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REFLECTIONS.... / Laly Bug (Wife)

Starry, starry night
Paint your palette blue and grey
Look out on a summer's day
With eyes that know the darkness in my soul
Shadows on the hills
Sketch the trees and daffodils
Catch the breeze and the winter chills
In colours on the snowy linen land

Now I understand
What you tried to say to me
And how you suffered for your sanity
And how you tried to set them free
They would not listen
They did not know how
Perhaps they'll listen now

Starry, starry night
Flaming flowers that brightly blaze
Swirling clouds and violet haze
Colours changing hue
Morning fields of amber grain
Weathered faces lined in pain
Are soothed beneath the artists' loving hand

Now I understand
What you tried to say to me
And how you suffered for your sanity
And how you tried to set them free
They would not listen
They did not know how
Perhaps they'll listen now

For they could not love you
But still your love was true
And when no hope was left inside 
You took your life as lovers often do
But I could have told you MICHAEL
This world was never meant for one as beautiful as you

Like the strangers that you've met
The ragged men in ragged clothes
The silver thorn of bloody rose
Lie crushed and broken on the virgin snow

Now I think I know
What you tried to say to me
And how you suffered for your sanity
And how you tried to set them free
They would not listen
They're not listening still
Perhaps they never will...

I LOVE YOU FOREVER MICHAEL ALLEN AARON!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Michael / Judy (Friend)
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Please Only Offer Tributes or Condolences / Pam Aaron (Wife)
I have received a couple of posts on here that are not tributes to the memory of Michael. If you wish to express your thoughts on this memorial, contact me directly via my email PSAa61573@aol.com. This memorial is for those of us that knew and loved Michael. If you are here visiting, I appreciate it and please feel free to offer a tribute. But anything that is disrespectful toward Michael or myself will be immediately deleted. Some might not think that it's appropriate on how I am dealing with my grief or the love I have for my husband, but that's my business. This memorial is in NO WAY meant to exploit the problems my husband had, it is a way to let the world know that Michael Aaron existed and that suicide leaves devastating effects on those left behind. Any OPINIONS you may have can be emailed to me directly. Thank you for your understanding.

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The Friend That Got Me Through / Mike Costello (Friend)
Although I did not know Mike before attending ITT or outside of the classroom, I do know that WITHOUT Mike I would NEVER have graduated from school. There is so much that I have to say that its quite overwhelming so if this seems jumbled please forgive me. I will always remember you Mike not for getting me through school but for the way you made me see things when everything seemed to be falling apart at the seams. Which is why this shocked me more than you could ever have imagined... When I was going to quit and just give up you seemed to find a way to rejunvinate my ambition and drive to succeed at it finishing what I started.... You NEVER had any quit in you from the minute I met you. I just wish I could have been there for you when you needed the favor repayed.

The little things that we do seem to have the greatest impact in someone elses life. Shortly after graduation my mother was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and is currently unable to leave the house. It was her greatest wish to see her son graduate from college and without you Mike she never would have seen me do it.....I'll never forget ya man and neither will my family...Love ya man. I will not ever forget!


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IF HIS SONG IS TO CONTINUE, WE MUST DO THE SINGING / Pam Aaron (Wife)

As sure as the words above states, we must all continue his song. He will not be remembered for the way he chose to end his life. He will be remembered for the person he was. Mike had his problems - worse than what anyone ever really knew- but he was a wonderful man. If only he didn't shut the door on people that meant the most to him. He tried to do that to me many times during our relationship, but I wouldn't let him. The song he sang wasn't always a joyous one rather,  it was one of emotional and mental torment. Most of his life he lived in his own battlefield of what we call Bi-Polarism. The song that we will continue to sing for him is that of life. He gave his life up for the better of everyone else, including himself. His death was not an act of selfishness or cowardice. The legacy he left behind is one of compassion and thinking of others. He honestly felt that he did everyone wrong and made everyone's lives miserable. So in his mind, he was doing all of us a favor. Some might see it as being selfish because to them, he was only thinking of his own pain, but I knew him better than that. The majority of our time together, his focus was on making people happy by doing whatever he could for them and that made him feel better about himself. But then the wind would change and he was down and out again and then the doors would begin to shut. The song he sang to me throughout our time together is that first and formost, children are to be the main priority. And the other part of the song he sang but didn't realize it was that life is too short to be miserable. Through his life with me and death, he showed me that life is too short to sweat the small stuff. If you're avoiding someone or something for trivial reasons, put your pride aside and conquer it. Don't shut people out of your life, because you never know when there might not be a tomorrow. Mike's suicide didn't have to be. Just like all the other suicides that take place every day. For some, they don't know how NOT to sweat the small stuff, because to them it isn't small. Some reasons are major personal tragedies that they can't see any other way out of. But there is always another way. That's what Mike's death has opened my eyes to. He killed himself because he saw no other way and all he saw was the pain he believed he caused everyone. I know that my son and I are better people because of him. David was 4yrs old when Mike came into our lives. And he made me a better mother to our son. David was an out of control little boy at that time. Now he is much more reserved and respectful of others because of Mike. Through his death he also taught me that life is a precious gift from God, although he never believed that of his own life, he showed me that someone's misery is not always out of self pity...it's the empathy he had for other's. And that is the song I will continue to sing.

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Like the brother i never had.... / Norm Liszka (Friend)
The shock of this loss is felt everyday in my heart, the laughs and goodtimes play over and over in my head. Mike was like the brother i never had, we met shortly after enrolling in ITT. We had our own little click of 4 guys (ME,Mike Costello, Mike Aaron, and Justin Husvar) we pretty much stuck together through all and helped each other out through our 2 years at ITT. We used to laugh about how all our Degree was gonna get us was tech support jobs at Walmart electronics dept Mike was gonna be the supervisor and me assistant supervisor of tech support. . Me and Mike seemed to click very well, we were alike in so many ways and confided in one another on many issues. Since finding out of his passing, everyday i reflect on memories of him, i cry and look to the sky and ask WHY???? Pam and David meant the world to him, he used to always tell me. He said he would never do anything to hurt them. We talked about graduating from ITT and how we were proud of ourselves for working and supporting our families and still obtaining high grades @ ITT and how Proud he was to let David see him walk across that stage and see what he had accomplished. He knew that Degree was just a stepping stone, his knowledge in our field of study was so vast. He would take on the bulk load of our final projects all by himself and shock everyone at the outcome, because it was like a seasoned pro had done the project. I'll end these memories for now but not forever Mike, i wish we would have confided in one other before this tragic loss. You are a man who will truly be missed and always remembered. I would like to say to you Pam this memorial website was definetly something he would have wanted, and i hope you and David the very best. Your buddy, NORM Close

6 Wks Ago / Pamela Aaron (Wife)
It was 6 wks ago today that I lost the love of my life. 6 wks ago today at approx this time (1:30ish) was the last time I would ever hear him say to me, "I love you." If only I had known...I miss him so much. I hope the peace of mind he was searching for, he finally found. He is my Forever Love.... Close

birth / Mom &. Dad Dewey (love)
April 11,2005  a new baby was born we remember you!! Close

"love is a wonderous thing" / Mom &. Dad Dewey (love)
Dear Pam, Mike and David ,
We love yoy every day "all day" Close